Thursday, January 24, 2013
A Patch blogger's post about not helping her children on the slide is being debated across the country.
A Patch blog from Alameda, Calif., called “Please Don’t Help My Kids” has struck a nerve with readers across the country. Posted in September, the blog has taken off over the past few weeks as it has found a second life through social media sharing. The blog has 124,000 Facebook recommendations and 833 people have tweeted the blog. The blog is an open letter to other parents at the playground. The blogger Kate Bassford Baker’s basic request is for parents to not help her daughters on the slide. She wrote that she wants her daughters to do things and learn things on their own. Learning to walk up the slide’s ladder is the first step to learning new things and overcoming obstacles, she wrote. “Because, as they grow up, the ladders will …
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
It seems like teaching children manners has taken a back seat to almost everything but the eye rolling ends today.
I am a fun mom. Really, ask anyone. Ask my kids, my husband and my friends. I love having fun, pushing the routine from time to time, and a good belly laugh makes my day. But when it comes down to manners, even a fun mom has to be shown a little respect. I think it hit me when my kids started karate a few weeks ago and even Sensei Diana demanded a little respect. She would not accept "Yeah" as a child’s answer when asked a question. She requested eye contact, a calm body and a proper "Hello" and "Goodbye." I like Sensei Diana! Boy, those kids listened and listened happily. I decided then, and after a brief Facebook conversation I had with a few fellow moms, to renew my quest for good manners. Manners always been important to me, but …
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
Getting paid for doing everyday tasks around the house has become the norm, but shouldn’t kids do these things as part of their daily responsibilities?
I’m old school. I’m stubborn, and I don’t follow trends when it comes to parenting. We don’t watch TV during the school week, we don’t sit on the computer and play mindless games and there are no hats, cell phones or bad manners at our dinner table. So when my friends started asking me how much allowance I give my elementary school-aged children I laughed ... out loud. Why in the world would I pay my children to do the things needed to sustain the house they live in? I did some research on the topic and, it turns out, much to my surprise that there are a host of “professionals” that believe children should be paid, for example, 50 cents per week for each year of age. In this scenario my 7-year-old would get $3.50 per week. Others have …
Tuesday, January 1, 2013
The New Year brings new hopes and challenges but a host of resolutions we don’t usually keep.
Let’s just put it out there shall we: We don’t keep our New Year’s resolutions. We mean well, but those grand thoughts of ditching the holiday weight and curbing our TV watching usually fall by the wayside just weeks into the first month. Not this year! I am making resolutions that I can actually keep. What’s my secret you ask? Simplicity -- no need to set yourself up for failure. Make some resolutions that are actually attainable. Here are some off my parenting list: So that is where I am this first week of the New Year. I am trying to make more realistic plans for the next year and with some adjustments along the way and think I can make them stick. Now that my parenting goals are done it is time to move on to my personal goals. That …
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
Keeping children focused on the real meaning of the holiday season can be hard but it’s worth the effort.
If I hear my children ask when they can open the gifts already under our tree one more time, I promise you mine will be the house you pass with all of their gifts thrown on the front yard. Oh, and with crying children standing on the front porch. No, no, I wouldn’t really do that. But some days I day dream about it. Some days, I want to ban presents all together and just stand around the piano as my daughter plays Christmas carols and my son dances about. Keeping children focused on the real meaning of Christmas is hard. Thankfully, I am determined. And after watching How The Grinch Stole Christmas at least 45 times, my kids can now recite the end, when that green cat-like creature with a heart two sizes too small declares, “Christmas …
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Being an interfaith family has its challenges, but in the end the rewards outweigh them all.
This is the time of year that I get the most questions about life as an interfaith family. They are all good, honest questions, so I never mind sharing how we do things. To be honest, when I met my husband more than 10 years ago, our different faith backgrounds didn’t cause us to skip a beat. One reason may be that we have both experienced “the other side,” so we were no strangers to each other’s holidays, traditions and culture. One of my dearest friends and neighbor growing up is Jewish, and I swear I spent as much time at her Temple as I did at my church. I loved the rituals, the stories, the kind Rabbis who always welcomed me. And to be clear, my husband jokes that he is “Jew-ish” and I don’t pretend to be a role model for the …
Tuesday, December 4, 2012
In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, it’s easy to forget the child in us that believes.
I'll admit it took me a little longer than usual to get in the holiday spirit this year. I am sure it has something to do with the broken foot I have been nursing since Columbus Day. Fall is an incredibly busy time of year for everyone, but try adding in two birthdays, a husband’s crazy work schedule and the insane idea of hosting Thanksgiving and then you have a superstorm that doesn’t allow for putting your foot up on ice. But I digress. Getting into the holiday spirit is usually fairly easy when you have kids. You just can’t help but look at things through their eyes and go a little crazy with nostalgia. I’ve been known to spend an entire day looking for the traditional Advent calendars with chocolates behind each window. My Oma used …
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
This is the time of year things can go from manageable to insane faster than you can say Toys 'R Us.
Ah, the holiday season. The turkey has been gobbled up, the pumpkin pie inhaled and our waistlines doubled over our already too tight jeans. As we unpack our Christmas decorations and dust off our menorahs, we start to think about how we, as parents, can keep this time of year from becoming less about family, giving and love and more about ourselves, receiving and mall frustration. When things get out of hand in the holiday department we need to go back to basics. Back to traditions, back to our community and back to a handful of carefully selected gifts that may even include some that are homemade. But it is so hard! There are so many cool toys with cool commercials that the kids see. There are so many gadgets, furry snow boots and …
Tuesday, November 20, 2012
A timeless family tradition has made its way back into the family room, but do board games make kids smarter?
I haven’t always liked board games, but now that I am older and wiser I know it is because my three older brothers always been the pants off me at most any game we played. My dad was about the only one who “let” me win from time to time. Now that I have kids we have really gotten into the spirit of board games, I look for games that teach them something no matter how small. Recently, I discovered that with a little coaxing most any board game can be a learning experience for kids. Very quickly I saw how board games helped both kids learn about taking turns. My youngest was about 3-years-old when we started playing after dinner each night, and he wanted to go first all of the time. We told him if he wanted to play we would rotate who goes …
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
This Thanksgiving, I have decided to let the kids rule and sit back and enjoy the ride.
I am hosting Thanksgiving this year and couldn’t be happier about it. Mainly because I get to see my family, but also because we don’t have to endure the busiest travel day of the year via planes, trains and automobiles. I will be sure to remember that when my brothers show up with their families looking tired and defeated. The prospect of my sister-in-law's delicious cooking and a few rounds of ping-pong (family tradition) will surly cure what ails them. But I think the best part about this Thanksgiving will be my “let the kids take over” mentality. I feel like my kids are finally old enough, along with their cousins, to really get involved. I started right after Halloween with a great Magic Tree House Fact Tracker book simply called …
Michael Fleming
9:43 am on Saturday, January 26, 2013
Agree. "Play" is actually an activity children use to learn many lessons, test limits, explore their world and learn its rules. When you protect your child from every little micro trauma, he or she learns no lessons, explores no boundaries, finds no knowledge of limits. They wind up living on the basement couch, afraid or unable to deal with a world that offers no such coddling. The author of … more ›